Troubles are stepping stones!

In troubled situations, we tend to give up on all morals. Everything begins to seem hopeless. We feel lost in a very dark tunnel with no trail of light.
Just surviving through it seems very challenging. We get blinded by the situations and loose clarity of everything in life. Because of which we not only start loosing hope of reaching the
end of the tunnel, but also start loosing courage of walking through it.

Being courageous during the good times is very natural, but during the rough times it just seems to have evanesced. No matter how many boosters are given, it
fails to build up. Till then what seemed possible gradually begins to seem impossible.

We tend to get entangled in the thoughts of hopelessness that, no wisdom is enough to jolt us up. The times get so testing that, we begin to curse our existence.
The depressing thoughts get so contiguous that they seem more endearing than anything else. These thoughts not only depress us and make us feel like a big looser, but
they also seclude us from the rest of the world. Nothing seems inspiring, nothing seems worth living. After a while we dread and detest even the company of
our dear ones. Even peoples love and concern would seem like ridiculing.

No matter how wonderful a philosophy could be, at that point of time it would sound like a death knell. Times can be testing
but they should not be allowed to decide our incapability. During such times, all one can do is to react less to situations and expect nothing from life. Water which is no
competitor for a boulder, with persistence makes its way through it. So though all attempts of rising may seem to be of no use, the cumulative effect would
surely build up one day to break through the biggest of the blockade. There is a wonderful quote which says, if we try, we may loose, but if we don't then we
are sure to loose.

Though the tunnel may seem fathomless, it is sure to have another end. And as some enlightened person has rightly said, 'The battle is not over as I'm yet to win',
the entire battle is about making it to the other end of the tunnel.

Being in the dark, success would seem infinitely far, but it could just be a leap away. So we need to build up the courage to make that one last leap. The light
at the end of the the tunnel will wipe away even the darkest of the memories. That bliss is worth all the effort.

Being through difficult times may seem penalizing. Hard times have always made people stronger and better humans. Every blow has something to teach.
Life is a great teacher, as it imparts the lesson after appearing for the exam. Good times coddle us and tough times structure us. A proportionate mixture
of both is necessary for a balanced living.

Desperate Emotions

I was just thinking as to why the very thought of separation causes so much turbulence in our mind.

Thinking of parting from our family in trembling. There is a feeling of insecurity attached to the thought. We never realize how weak the bonds make us until the time when
have to part with them. Few relations we are gifted at the time of birth and as we grow we make many more.

When we live along with people, we tend to overlook the big trench we are continuously excavating for ourselves. Irrespective of the kind of relationship we share,
when it comes to move past it or when we have to live without it, we realize the depth of the trench which is awaiting our fall.

Since childhood we have always been reading that we shouldn't get attached to people as that would lead to suffering. Our mind does understand the severity
of the reasoning. But in every moment of life, we have the habit of deeply feeling our surroundings unconsciously. These emotions make our bond with the surrounding
stronger as time passes by.

When we live with people for years together, though our mind never consistently sticks to one thought, but keeps swerving from one to another swiftly. The emotions
are persistently building up within. And when it comes to break or part with them, the mind is ready to make that compromise but the emotions hijack the mental system
and make us very weak and susceptible.

Living in a relationship, though we go through good, bad, and sometime rough phases leads us to conclusions of hopelessness. Still when the period of
separation sets in, all memories melt to the terms of our emotions. And then when we try to remember some incidents which would encourage us to make the sacrifice,
even the rotten incidents show new signs of life and growth.

The emotional bonding is always getting stronger no matter how undesirable the situation in a relationship has reached. May be that's why when people part ways
the lost love springs a new bud of love and hope.

Lets embolden ourselves !

It's time to wither away the sorrow and regrets of 2012 and embrace the start of a new year with hope, vision and an altruistic motive.

Lets give ourselves another chance, to undo and redo our attitude, and rebuild our spirit and collect a message from the past and build a firm resolution for the upcoming year.

Lets all resolve to give our best to everything that we confront in the new year with a fresh mindset, positive attitude and a never say die spirit.

If we cannot make way through the impediments lets look for pragmatic work arounds and never give up no matter how impossible things look and what the world construes, as ultimately it's the submissive and persevering nature of the river that makes the boulders melt down to its terms.

So, here's wishing everyone a enlightening New Year's Eve and a purposeful year ahead!

God Bless.

Imagination is better than any time machine !!!

I woke up this morning with greetings from mom and dad. Then the greetings of the Pigeons whom I feed regularly. Today their sounds conveyed me good luck and best wishes for flying high past my sorrows, doubts and grief in life and to focus on my goals with a birds eye view. Their message seemed so enlightening.

I heard a mosquito buzzing near my ear as i reclined on the couch. My instantaneous reaction was to shoo it away, but later obliged to accept his message. He said life's very short and obstacle's very big, but small insertions at right places can destroy them. That was this superman's master advice.

I tried imagining the first day of my life. Though my memory gave up, but my senses paired up with my imagination and decided to gift me a chance to relive those emotional moments.

My mind drifted away with my imagination........

I see a beautiful picture of me bidding an adieu to my vocalists who entertained me in the womb. Though they were noisy at times, at times scary and at time very disturbing as they would wake me up from my peaceful naps. But the same sounds now meant music to me. Feeling very insecure of having to part with my tiny world, left my home with a lot of anxiety, driven by some push, to lead me elsewhere, don't know where....

Ah! I here some familiar voice here, feeling better now. As i continue keenly listening to the surroundings, deeply miss my tiny world.Then for the first time felt air gushing over my body. I was quiet familiar with motion but not with this strange feeling of contact with air.

And then coming in contact with a solute similar to whats been around me always, assumed was back in my own world, hence wanted to check out for some familiar sounds. 'NO' i dont hear any , whats happening ???? where am i??? when is this expedition going to end ????

Ah after a ride of jolts and shakes i find a familiar warmth, i'm shedding tears of joy that i would be safe now. Accidentally open my eyes, OMG why is there so much of brightness. Against this bright background i see something more, first image being processed by my mind. Dont understand much, but the feeling is so endearing. This image seems to occur with some sounds, this sound is the only melody i got to listen inside there midst the orchestra. Completely rejoicing the moment, wanting more images and more of this sound.... sulking every time the image blurs, or the melody disperses... I feel so secure and back home, dont want any more rides. I'm kind of happy that i had a safe landing.

Ooops again irritation, why such bursts of noise. Awaken from my nap open my eyes, mmmmm, why so many images. I'm trembling with fear and whining. These deadly images seem to be moving.... i start crying, and then the voices diminish and then disappear, one good news, no more moving images.

I again close my eyes hoping to be back in my world. This expedition was filled with pain, fear, joy, anxiety. Keeping my fingers crossed, i'm falling asleep....................

Oh my my my what an amazing imagination, I guess i need to wake up to the reality of the day. I feel so brave and courageous of the tiny 'me'. Oh god why this world still seems so insecure, unfamiliar and fearful even to this day? I better go back to sleep with my fingers crossed !!!

Goal the Soul

Very general question that must be striking many of us .... Why are we here, whats the cause, whats next... transmigration... cycle of birth and death...

Though I have taken up a very sensitive topic for discussion, hope to do enough justice to my thoughts and my attempt of articulating my view.

There is divine and evil, like good and bad... they coexist to strike the balance. Our soul is a part of the divine, which resides in all the living, it is the breath of life to put it straight. Its on a journey to unite with the divine.

The body is like its vehicle, boat, carrier, chariot, housing the soul, and leading it to the destination. And the lead or the driver to this body is our mind. The body and the soul are two different entities, in layman's terms one is the supernatural and the other the human/natural. The lead to the soul can definitely not be the human mind. It can only be the divine itself which can lead this soul to its destination.

Now the biggest responsibility lies in this human body to support this cause. The soul has assumed this body to attend to some duties. Only when it fulfills them can it move ahead in its journey. The question that arises is how do we help our soul accomplish its motive? Thats a very big question, the answer lies within the supernatural element  (soul/divine). Now how do we connect with it, whats its language, whats the communication channel ? The language is nobility and the channel is divinity. How simple does that sound ???

 The body has assumed a higher priority for its wants and given the least to the goal or the ultimate motive of the soul. And hence the goal of the soul never makes it to the cpu of this body (the mind).

We have come across snippets like, no matter how much you achieve in this life, we would have to start from the beginning in the next life. Though we laughed about it.. its very true. Then why don't we try to make this our last life. But every body wants to live. Every body is so attached to this world, but nobody has thought of meeting the creator of this world. If his creation can be so magnificent, how would staying with him be like ?

When we attach our happiness to an object, its not the object thats got you happiness, its just instigated the happiness that already existed in you... that mean it has always been within us and we never knew how to bring it out. The happiness thats associated with anything in this world is very momentary, it has a life span, expiry date and so the happiness never lasts long enough to turn into satisfaction. And so the thirst in us never quenches and we never stop trying to obtain it.

If this was all with the body. Lets check with the soul.

The soul is very supreme, as its part of the divine. It possess in it, supernatural powers, infinite knowledge and also the solution to this maze of life and death.

It knows only the language of divine, nobility is its identity and love is its channel. Its basically all good and nothing bad it knows... thats simple and straight. And its world is a prototype of the divine world. Filled with happiness pouring out of the springs called satisfaction. It has so much love within it that if we went spreading it, even the universe would fall small. It would give you a glimpse of the divine. After which nothing in this world would seem worth acquiring. Thats the reason why there are innumerable saints doing penance, as they do not want to come out of that divine feeling, they do not want to wake up from the divine sleep. The pleasure that one feels is inexplicable. Along with all these boons it would also help you attain salvation, where  the soul merges with the divine, and its not got to take any more human forms. All this would happen only when we would allow it to pursue it goal.

We must not be bothered about this body, but be more concerned of the soul. Because the soul is immortal the and body is mortal. To row this body on to the path of the divine, oar's we need is love and faith. Love for every body, as we would not cause any harm to our loved ones, and faith in the divine would keep us moving no matter what comes.We basically need to move into the forte of the soul. Be genuinely good, feel good and do good at all times. And then when the communication channel is bridged between the soul and the body, the soul would take over the body and lead us to the mouth of the sea, from where the divine becomes the boat's man and will lead this body to the shore and the soul to its harbor.

Remember this journey is not easy at all, its filled with worst of the obstacles, which one can come over only with the faith in the divine and one would require immense patience and perseverance and most importantly the desperation of attaining salvation in this very life.

Socrates has rightly said " When you want success as badly as you want air, then you will get it." 

If concentrated beam of light can burn paper, our determination can fix a meeting for us with the divine.

A snippet of the teachings of another wise man 'Vivekananda' 

"Every fool may become a hero at one time or another. Watch a
man do his most common actions; those are indeed the things
which will tell you the real character of a great man. Great
occasions rouse even the lowest of human beings to some kind of
greatness, but he alone is the really great man whose character is
great always, the same wherever he be."


By basically trying to be a great man and executing our duties like as though it was our service to the divine. Not bonding with the outcome of our service and waiting patiently for the divine grace.


When the soul/divine finds us capable of executing our duties, tasks would be allotted, so as to accomplish the divine goal. Until then we would simply have to wait... as John Milton has rightly said in his poem 'On his blindness' :


'He also serves, who only stands and waits' 


We can achieve anything we want with perseverance, so lets choose our goal carefully. As to whether we want to rule this world or reserve a seat in the divine world. Only when our vision is clear, would we be able to choose the right path, lets not be confused with our priorities and try to accomplish the impossible goal of sailing in two boats at the same time.


Hence its important to first choose a guide for ourselves and then follow their said path with complete dedication and sincerity. Else we would be disrespecting the guide. For if we read the Bhagavad Gita, or the scriptures, its important for us to follow what is said and understood by us, only then would we progress.

Lets break through our inhibitions.....

Life gets very monotonous when either we have conquered everything or every has conquered us. Its generally observed that people take defeats very personal and wound themselves and endanger the selfconfidence.

When people start undermining themselves due to their failures and give up trying, back out of every challenge without even attempting at it... the challenges crop up to become a monster which finally engulfs their confidence. And then praises and compliments too start to sound sarcastic and nasty. To quote a reference to real life sequence, when we loose a match and our opponent tells us we were brilliant, we would obviously feel he's mocking at us. This is what happens when we accept our defeat.

'Battle's not over as i haven't won yet', must be the feeling that one has to nurture. Everything is lost once self confidence is lost, there is nothing more to loose in life. All this happens because we 'me' to everything we do, and so when we fail it gives us a blow. 

When we were kids, the I-factor (Inspiration factor) was always more than P-factor (Personal factor), and so achievements like walking for the first time, and speaking for the first time in a dialect and then writing and reading for the first time always felt great as their was only a thirst to learn and we did not glorify the victory. But as we grow, our attempts get a stamp of P-factor and due to which every failure gets humiliating and devastating. The P-factor comes with two out comes, Pride and Pain. Comes with Pride when we succeed and Pain when we fail. 

Both of them are destructive for the growth of an individual. And even in the scriptures our saints have quotation for this phenomena 'Karmanye vadhi karasthe mapaleshu kadachana' which only tries to say never focus your attempts on the outcome. 

Nobody is born with skills and traits... its only that they develop a few due to experiences and few due to necessities and a few they master through their techniques of approach. So there are much more we have to inculcate. 

We need to cash on opportunities and challenges that we encounter to develop ourselves. We must never begin at it with any sort of prejudice either about self or the matter. Every thing must be faced fresh and confidently. Our previous failures must be our inspiration and victories must be our motivation. Even if we were to fall, we should only focus on the reason and absorb the analysis but never look at the place we fell. 

After all there is no one to declare us as looser except ourselves. We are our guide, tutor, invigilator and our own referee. For in the past when kings lost major battles and ran for refugee, they never considered it as the final battle and that they are incapable. They recovered over the failure and re-established themselves and reconstructed an army and looked for opportunities to fight back. We are one man army, we only need to re-establish ourselves and strike back at the next prospect.

We should always do a SWOT analysis and extract our milestones from it as well as our previous failures. As small steps make a big leap, small attempts of rectifying our mistakes and building over our limitations would finally help us achieve over milestones. 

As humans we would have the habit of Procrastination. But that too could be handled. When we would like to bring in a change, we would have to face a lot of internal oppositions. But thats fine, lets keep postponing in small intervals of time. For instance lets postpone work from morning to evening and not next week. As when we postpone it to eve and we again feel like postponing it to the next day... over a few days we would start to feel guilty of having neglected the work for quite a long time and would conquer our limitations and attend to that work immediately. 

In the process we grow as a human being and accomplish even things we considered impossible. And over a period of time we would be metamorphosed into a better individual. And with determination and penance we could even acquire characteristics which we always aspired and desired.

Saint Vivekananda says 'Strength is Life and Weakness is Death', in the same lines stagnation is death and growth is life. So lets not give up on life until life gives up on us...

Lets have more of I-factor and less of P-factor.

Go get that jolting lifeshake !

Saw another fantastic movie ZNMD (zindage na milegi dobara). Depicting various challenges of life and the human way of facing it... Not touching much on its story line... the last act of Running of the Bulls practiced in spain had a major impact on my thoughts.

Basically humans love problems...  probably that fondness they got harmonizing Mathematics since childhood. Children never develop a block for themselves... they indeed figure out a solution for everything just by being determined of obtaining something. But this tendency is nearly obsolete in adults.

With experiences, humans have discouraged themselves, undermined their capabilities..... in a nut shell, its that they have lost themselves in this race of life.

Humans fantasize being a major critic, complaining and whining about every thing that's happening, ruling out all possibilities in the name of 'Not possible' and some in the name of ' Its too late'. Humans fear themselves and nobody else, its just that they are not able to convince themselves of what's right. But they detest accepting this fact and blame the world, their destiny. Few consider our habitat and responsibilities to be the culprit.

Actually, its all about our mind.... its the biggest crook. Problems are not around they are within our small box called the mind. It prejudices, and crops up situations for us and makes us feel its just impossible to get out of it. Its all hallucination, as the figure of the undesired is blown up. It impedes our view of our strengths and hypnotizes us to believe that every thing it has set before us is real. And we fall prey to its deceit.

Along with this their is another villain to worsen things, and that's our Ego. Fear of feeling ashamed in front of people comes from this weed. Its this that encloses us and enslaves us from the rest of the world and some times our own self.

All this was the trailer, but the actual story is that, we are unhappy. We end up fighting with every body as we dread to face our own mind which now for us has become an invincible, and unconquerable enemy.





In this movie, the Running of the Bulls, is the best medicine to deal with all our problem. Its that when death is behind us, trying to engulf us, everything else seems minuscule. The mind automatically feels sorted and wants to live. When we fail to pacify our mind and ruin our life, we feel life is a meaningless existence, nothing worth it... But when death starts ticking, people want to run for their life. They start to find themselves more important and every obstacle minute and every problem approachable.

The moral is, our mind is a crazzy monkey, the more we pamper it and try convincing it.. the more naughtier it gets, but when we endanger it in front of a bigger shark.... it goes down on its knees for your orders...

If we just try to imagine ourselves in that situation of running for life... all of us will be able to deduce a simple escape from the deepest of the trenches. And we would let past our ego, fear's and face situations courageously and succeed with flying colors.

If there is some thing that we cannot defeat or conquer, its Death, which is bound to happen. So lets really live before it knocks us off.