Difference between living in and living for …..

Saw a movie of high caliber which was extremely intriguing. It possesed a potential that actuated me, to post this :)

Been living in a democratic country since eons, the inveterate culture has sunk into our living. As we are born in a relation, live and lead for till the end. Human has always been a communal and social creature. Who lives in consanguinity.

Each has a varied set of traits, hence no two of us are alike in all aspects. We are blessed with few relations by birth, whom we accept by all means no matter how dissimilar and anti they are. Though we do get cantankerous at times.

And friends we choose based on how complaisant they seem to us. Though we jitter up often but admonish at a later phase. There are two reasons for the endurance of this bond, One is congruity and the other most significant one being, ranking the relation above one's own self.

When it comes to the crucial relation of life… wedlock… we clutter up our discernment. People carp  about the persistence of love. We will have to plunge an inch deeper into this enigma inorder to articulate it better.

On embarking this journey,  friendship is of utmost regard. This may mean fantasizing every bit of compromise. Till friendship blooms to love… this would be the trend. It also includes missing no opportunity to impress and glorify the loved one. Once the relation florescence’s,  it begins to wobble between love and obsession. Respect for each other also begins to take the back seat. Now comes the problem. As obsession is gravely fragile,  when mishandled it could be cataclysmic and devastating. This horrid aspect dawns when people sedate their conscience.  Because of which the obnoxious team up of puerile obsession would never fail in its attempts of creating a fiasco.

So probably the walk around for this could be to keep the ethical self awake and not behave like a novice.  Most part of the rankling could be avoided by a wise judgment during the pivotal situations. And the most important part of it being prioritizing the relation, more than oneself and ones ego. Oblige towards each other’s self esteem.

 A compromise would start to hurt when the precedence goes hodgepodge. And during this time one can take control of the situations by just one element and that’s ‘Wisdom’. Wisdom of what’s more important for one self. One must try and maintain composure.Putting a firm foot back is much better than drowning oneself in sludge of ego. And if the relation soars out of the wreckage nothing as delirious as it.

But if things go unrestraint… it’s no dooms day… people can always part ways gracefully instead of leaving behind a wretched and hopeless relation with nothing other than bitterness left in it. One’s life is too precious to be wasted for a relation… we could always go ahead and find a person with whom we can rise in love, and for whom we would not mind bending our principles, and with whom we would like to grow old with, and with whom compromise never seems bitter. For god has sent us down in pairs… so what if we made a wrong choice… we always have a second chance ….