My friend just asked me this question; I think this is a question that does bother many. The entire sect of females are supposed to be having this personality trait. Now if it were a single individual to be blamed then we could come up with myriads of reasons, but if every one exposes the same attribute… I conceive it to be something profound. It’s superficial to go by the term so lets excavate the root source and causes.
We can debate on everything that I have to say, but these have all been the causes. Subservience, Empathy, sacrifice, compromise have probably metamorphosed over the ages to be what shows up as ‘Sensitive’ today.
Let’s go layer by layer down the trench. As I have already mentioned and would like to reiterate that, the lineage of this character is too old. So ages ago, a girl was not treated equal to a boy. Since childhood she was nailed with the notion that she always ranks second in class. She had no say in anything that went on in her life. She succumbed to happenings in her life without raising a voice for herself. So from here originated the characteristic of conceding to situations. Getting knuckled away by situations is still evident in the life of a girl. Even today, we have girls just nodding their heads to every decision taken for her be it regarding her childhood or her marriage. She cannot independently take decisions for herself whatever may be the reason.
Now next factor to touch on is ‘Empathy’, since childhood, she’s been thought to feel for her parents, and empathize with them. Though the same lesson is been taught to the male child as well. After a certain age, its observed that the males tend to start taking decisions on their own. They are allowed to do so. Moreover their decisions can be hostile to the decisions of the family. But a girl though can think on the same lines cannot walk out with her opinion. So there lies the dependence again. This empathy is taken forward with her into the next stage of her life. Mean while also to mention here is that the girl is been forced to do what she may loathe to do over the eons. And that’s to accept a stranger into her life, and part ways with her own family. This concept may seem very ordinary, but lets emulate one such situation and see the intensity of this idea. When we are to make acquaintances, we do a general analysis of the person. And then to consider that person to be a friend a lot of screen tests go on very subconsciously. Only after which does trust creep in. Now lets relate to marriage in the life of a girl. She needs to just accept a person into her life giving him the status of a husband, who is suppose to be more than a friend and a family member. She has no inkling of his nature. How much can a person understand another in a span of months. To read one person completely, is just next to impossible. Living in a world of insecurities for a girl, she has her own fears about this man. But again has to accede to the decision taken for her. Though parents would do the best for their child, each of us have our inhibitions within before deciding for ourselves. Then when she gets on to this phase of her life… She has a whole new family to accept… which is surely not simple as it seems. To live in a relatives house for a day gets us homesick, but here she is just supposed to accept that its her new home… whether she likes it or not… So here we see her submissiveness. In such a situation she surely has no voice of her own. Whether she likes or not she has to adjust and maintain composure in all situations. Can she demand anything for herself… she should not even dream of it… the girl needs to be soft spoken, amenable, and highly compliant towards every thing. The predicament she would be through; could be understood only by her.
A man finds solace in the company of a woman. That’s because she empathizes with him. She accepts him to a part of her… come what may she has to live in the condition he keeps her. He can vent out his frustration on her, but she is definitely not allowed to do so. She might have had many dreams regarding her future… but here her future is left at the whims of her husband. She must be ready to accept a ‘NO’. So she sacrifices her dreams… and compromises with the situations.
And the most important part of the analysis lies in being a mother. ‘Mother’ a word so pure and has abysmal depth within it. When a mother goes through the process of conceiving, she emotionally bonds with the child growing within her. The pain she undergoes while giving birth to the young one is just enormous. She can feel the childs breath… She can feel the child’s pain reading his eyes. Everything about the child is extremely tangible to her… its because the child was a integral part of her. God has made a woman so sensitive so that, she can be a mother. It goes without saying that, mothers love is very pure, and there can be nobody like her. How is she so ideal. Why does a child not get so intimate with the father. The lady takes a rebirth to be a mother. She relives her childhood along with the child. What a mother feels for her child, cannot simply be explained in words. So she needs to be sensitive to understand the unuttered and unvoiced language of a child.
I do not know how much of justification I have done; in explicating the life a woman leads… she has much more inside her… she needs to feel and vent out her feelings as only then she can freshly feel the next emotion. And to emphasize here, she swiftly recuperates out of every dejection. Every emotion that she feels is deep and fresh… that’s why somebody has rightly said a woman is nobility personified. She has the right mix of characters to be an ideal child, a loyal and loving wife and most of all a compassionate mother. She epitomizes patience and love. So if it was not for her… what would we have to do, to find solace…
Even in the most adverse situations she remains composed and extremely patient. All she expects from a man, is empathy, empathy and empathy. Not that men don’t understand them, its only that; the way they exhibit them that mostly matters to her. When she is upset, it’s more like conciliating a child… she just wants the man to remain by her side and be resilient to her emotions. She needs no great help, as she can handle the toughest of the situations; but not her emotions. So to end on a lighter note I would call out to all the men and say, if you would like to impress the woman in your life… you don’t need to bring her stars, just give her more and more of your love and patience; to listen to her juvenile cries when she requires a person by her side… easiest way to make place in a woman’s heart
We need to acknowledge this complex personality of her's, as all these unified; maker her a super woman. It’s that she can perceive the unsaid and feel the imperceptible vibes, to act beforehand. She bridges every communication gap that can possible exist in a family. It if was not her exertion, the institution of marriage and family would have become obsolete.
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